Rejections are regular features that comes along with your daily life. No matter how powerful you are in life nobody wants to feel rejected. But to me I have come to see rejection as a blessing rather than a cause. I have been rejected alot of times, and I ask myself this question WHY? Not anymore, it has opened up my path to having better understanding with my process. The problem is not the rejection but how you cope with it. Some of us spend to much time focusing on the problem rather than looking for Solutions. Days will go by quickly without you realizing this,remember the world does not stop moving because something bad happens to you. Infact the world moves faster, things are happening and you sit in your corner winning about why you are rejected.
Being in a new environment and Learning how to integrate rejection comes along with this package. I wake up everyday finding my place in this new society, circumstance has changed, these are not the things I am used to. Do I sit back and wonder why I am being rejected or find a way to fit im. Yes, it is hard to learn a new culture and understand different ways of people who are not from your tribe and kind. But remember those people from your tribe and kind still reject you. My focus was not to fit in but to bring me along into this new society. Be me in my own skin and do what I know how to do best and that is spreading my positivity. We attract what we think about, we are shapen by our thoughts. I have to understand my new environment was not waiting for me, i was coming to it. We live in a society where fake is more than real. This is so SCARY but it is the reality of our Today’s world. I came out of my apartment and no one was smiling, do I feel rejected because I said Hello and all I got was a straight face! I kept smiling and walked pass two other people who didn’t respond to my greetings. It happened three times in a row for a week, but I kept smiling and saying Hello. It was hard for me, I am getting rejected looking for a job, I was rejected in many apartments before I got one. Now I am feeling rejected because no one would respond to my greetings in the mornings. My kids come home Especially my son and all I hear is mummy I don’t like my new school. I asked my daughter,I asked her first because she is full of life and always happy. And she says to me the other students don’t like me, nobody likes us, we feel rejected. Hummm, rejected? I asked her, yes mum. I told her this, just because you feel nobody likes you does not mean you are rejected. It is Okay, remember you are new and they don’t really understand you yet. Give them time but never stop being yourself. Do not try to fit try to stand out, let people see and know who you are.
Sometimes when I feel rejected I tell myself it is not about me, my color or race. It is not about where i am coming from, it is not about my abused life or my healing from Depression, it has nothing to do with me. It is easy for us to feel it is about us when we are rejected, sometimes we want to hear those words, you are hired, you are beautiful, you are welcome here but when those words don’t come ,know it is not about you. I went to check out one appartment when I was looking for a place, the landlord said to me I can’t give you this place, i said why . After walking under the hot sun for one good hour, that wasn’t even the issue, missing my way several times and yet I was rejected once again. We always have big plans about doing something big, being in certain places and holding big positions but somehow life gives us the rejections;it does not mean you won’t get everything but at the right time when you can handle everything well enough and appreciate your progress.
Make your own evaluations of the things happening in your life. Know that what is designed for you will get to you and you will appreciate the experience that got you there. When I Finally got a place ,it was what I wanted, not the best but good enough with everything around me, i realized the places I got rejected were far from bus stops, malls and groceries shops. When I got to the school board to get school for my kids i was shocked to find out my kids school is just 5min away from the house. Sometimes your rejections are for your own benefits. For your own growth and helps you understand the power of saying NO. I refuse to take rejections personally, we also get rejected by family members loved ones and even neighbors. That should not stop you from moving forward, do not take it as an offence, you can’t have a bad life because you were rejected. Take it as a way of discovering yourself. I don’t stop saying Hello on the hall way when I see my neighbors, I put on a big smile even when they don’t feel like it now they smile back. Just recently a guy walked up to me and said hope you are Okay: Wow! That was a big deal. I said yes thanks this means alot.
Don’t give up, it is not about you, keep going and remember people are struggling with different things, do not let all these stop you. You are going to get rejected, that is the more reason you have to put you first. Sometimes change is good, if you have never been rejected, it is coming. No one is immune to this, I want you to use this as your own good. Do not over react,Remember you have also rejected some people too. Just recognize it and let it go ,do not let it define you. Do not let anyone tell you you can’t do something by their rejections. Live your life for you not for anyone else, you will get rejected don’t let it stop you,people will always judge you that is life. To me rejection means they see greatest in me and is too big for them to handle. Even in my deepest pain i am experiencing life to my advantage.
Your life is possible in every angle.